The Enlightened Mom

As a mom, I know that I want to get it “right” for my family. I’m sure you do, too. But have you ever asked what is the worst thing you can do as a mom? Have you ever thought about the actions you take that set your family up for failure?

I’ve been coaching and teaching moms now for almost 15 years and what I see is that the worst thing we mommas do is live by the belief that says, “My needs must come last.”

When we live by this belief, we shut down to abundance. We shut down to love. We shut down to our God-given gifts and our life purposes. We shut down to true service. This belief we mommas live by is the #1 reason we fail.

No matter what you do as a mom, how loving you are or how much you give to your family, you set them up for failure when you put yourself last. That’s because they watch you and learn. They match you.

So what is the best gift you can give your family? What is your greatest act of service?

Loving yourself is your greatest act of service. And here’s why.

When you put your needs as a top priority, four things happen.

1. You create a connection to God. You put God first. That’s because as you honor and love the way you were created, you honor God. You create a connection so that you feel peaceful, loved and filled with joy.

2.  You say to the world that you matter. You are of value. And when you treat yourself this way, the world treats you with love, respect, kindness and gentleness. But it’s up to your to set this tone first.

3.  You give yourself a voice and ask for what you want. You get heart-centered, instead of living in survival.

4.  You open up to receive, allowing God’s miracles and abundance to show up.

Mom, your greatest act of service is when you stop putting yourself on the back burner. You matter. And so does your family. However, they will not know this at their core if you continue to set an example of lack and self-denial.

What kind of example do you want to set for your family? Lack or abundance? Do you want the ones you love to feel as if they don’t matter? Do you want them to feel as if their needs must always come last? Of course you don’t! As long as you continue to believe that you have to come last, you will send a message to the world that this is love. It’s not. It’s lack and is why we’re all struggling and in survival.

We mommas have the power to shift this thinking. Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone knew without a doubt that they mattered? And can you imagine how people would interact with others if each knew that they were of value and could ask AND receive the things they needed without guilt? Competition and power struggles would end. People would support and honor one another. No longer would we live in survival as a world, but instead would live in peace and abundance.

We ALL have the ability to create a peaceful, joyful and abundant existence. The struggles we feel come from the inside. What’s going on in the world is simply a mirror of our own lack within. This is why it’s so important for us mommas to heal.

We have to let go of the beliefs that cause us to put ourselves on the back burner so we can end the cycle of struggle and failure. The key is to release the hidden false beliefs that say that to be a good mom, you have to come last.

If you’re ready to create a shift within yourself and give your family and the world an incredible gift, please join me for my one-day intensive called, “Moms, Money & Miracles: Tools to End the 4 Massive Mistakes Moms Make so You and Your Family Thrive instead of Survive!” It’s this coming Saturday, May 18^th, in Destin, FL. I will walk you step-by-step, releasing the hidden beliefs that set your family up for failure. I’ve had some ask, “Terri, is this a financial course since the word ‘money’ is in the title?” No, it’s not. But the tools you will learn and the healing that will occur will help you and your family step out of survival and into God’s miracles and abundance. YOU CAN’T AFFORD TO MISS THIS! YOUR FAMILY NEEDS YOU TO BE AT THIS CLASS! 

If you’re ready to end the struggle and be an example of abundance, grab your seat now at http://TheEnlightenedMom.com/MakeADifference! The doors will be shutting soon and SPACE IS LIMITED!

See you there!

“You’re not to blame for your mother’s pain.” I heard those words ringing in my ears some years ago after my mom had a stroke. I had just given her an energetic healing when I heard it once and then heard it again. I was doing everything in my power to help her feel better.

When I heard those words, I knew I had lived my life with the belief that I was to blame for mom’s unhappiness. I had been buried in guilt for years, believing that I was the one who caused her pain. I didn’t know this until I heard those words. As they filled my ears, my mind flashed with pictures of how this belief affected every relationship in my life. Whether I felt guilty for my hubby, my kids, my sister, or my friends, I had a false belief that their pain was my fault. This belief even affected my work. I felt I couldn’t get it right.

Guilt is debilitating. It shuts you down to receiving love, abundance, miracles, money, health, happiness, you name it. When you feel guilty and to blame for others’ pain, you shut out peace and joy. You spend your life performing, trying to do everything right. And in your effort to do things right, you put yourself on the back burner.

My mom always put herself on the back burner. Her greatest desire was to do things right for our family. She disconnected from her heart and the way she was created because she thought this was the loving thing to do. But by putting herself on the back burner, she was often an emotional mess and many times took out her pain on my sister and me. She lived by the belief that it was her job to make us “be good so we would feel accepted and loved by other people.” The problem was that I didn’t feel loved and accepted by my mother. I felt I couldn’t get it right. And, thus, my false belief was born.

I could go back generation after generation and tell the same story of my mamaw and my great grandmother. This is what we do as moms. We believe the loving thing to do is to put ourselves on the back burner so our families will feel loved. But instead, we perpetuate a cycle of pain and struggle. And just like I did with my mother, I took on the belief that I caused her pain. That’s what mom did with her mom, and so on, and so on.

So how do you end the cycle that has been handed down from generation to generation?